As with many moms who have boys with big hair and struggle with the decision (and pressure) to cut their boy’s hair, I sometimes doubt my choice to keep my son’s hair long. Particularly in this heat wave! But, I see the beauty and uniqueness of his natural Afro hair, and the unapologetically Black essence of locs. He stands out, and I want him to learn that he doesn’t have to conform to the ruling class’s definition of masculinity and respectability. I want him to define and exude that for himself. And shoot, just enjoy being a kid. Messy hair and all!