How dare anyone tell a person of color with thick coily hair to cut it down. You are suggesting that she cut down her self-esteem, her confidence, her blackness, her spirit. -Kadia B.
Givien the title of the blog, it is right to assume I’m in favour of natural hair ANYwhere, ANYtime. I mean, fundamentally–it grows out of our head. Why should it be banished in the White house, an army base, a school picture or at one of the biggest days in a woman’s life–her own wedding. Who wants to show their grandchildren that defining moment with a hairstyle that is influenced by European beauty standards? They have their European beauty standards for a European bride–sleek or romantic or pinned up regal. And yes, those brides look so beautiful on their wedding day. And guess what? We have our beauty, too and it’s all but invisible on one of our most important days because we are afraid to define what African beauty should be.
Wearing your natural hair on your wedding day can be intimidating, but imagine how empowering it is? As a 28 year old in a relationship, I am thinking about wedding bells and I think Solange’s wedding look is so revolutionary and inspiring. I wouldn’t have ever had the damn guts to wear an Afro to my own weddingg before her! But she looks ethereal, magical, simply Divine in her own natural beauty. Is the wedding industry pissed off? They should be. Because we don’t need to, or want to, subscribe to your pin-straight happily ever after. We have our own kinky, coily and completely phenomenal happily ever after–from our gorgeous curls to the shoes that should have been bought Black-owned, y’all.